Why is it that people believe it is their right to touch any baby passing by. Today the three of us were out and three different women decided they were allowed to touch Gideon. I don't mean three women who were together, I mean three different women in three different parts of the store. Now, at least two of them just touched his feet, but the other old broad touched my little baby's hand! I don't know where her hands have been. Did she pick her nose, cough on her hands, wash them after using the toilet? I don't know! And now anything she did/touched/picked is all over my little baby's chubby little fingers.
Yes, I know he is irresistibly adorable and all you want to do is eat every one of his delicious sausage toes one by one just before sucking his cheeks up like an oyster, but seriously, you.are.a.stranger.
I feel like people, ok women, believe once they have had children they are required to give unwanted advice, tell stories of "when my babies were born", and touch pregnant women and their babies. I remember when I was pregnant every woman I ever encountered, including passers by, giving me advice and telling me stories about when they were pregnant. Luckily for me, I never had the weird lady in the store corner me with her hands out and rub my belly, but I am sure that would not have gone over well. Now every Cindy Loo Who that passes by feels the need, desire, nay the right to touch my son.
I want to slap them. I want to slap them all. Perhaps I will...
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
You Don't Have to Cry
Who ever heard of a baby who hated being in a car? Typically babies enjoy car rides. Typically babies fall asleep while on a car ride. My son is soooo not typical. Pretty much from the beginning he has always screamed and cried the entire time in the car/car seat. Nothing helps. Nothing. Don't ask, "Have you tried..." I have, and it didn't work.
He's gotten better, but still HATES it. Over Labor day weekend we went to visit D's family. 6 hours in the car and I was dreading it! When we moved back the two eight hour days left Gideon with a hoarse voice for days after, so I was again prepared to experience the wailing baby. He did much better than I expected, and sometimes.... sometimes he does better when someone is in the back with him. But other times he just sits there with his eyes piercing yours and saying, "you cruel woman, why won't pick me up?"
Alright now for the controversy. We have started with the sleeping problems. OK not problems per se, and I think most of the reason I think it's a problem is because of all the well to do, older adults telling me it's a problem. Lately we have been struggling putting G down to sleep in his crib. He used to do great. He would let us put him down no problem and then sleep for hours, and only wake for feedings and go right back to sleep. But over the last few weeks he has been staying up much later (I'm talking doesn't go to sleep until 10:30), won't be put down, and won't stay asleep.
Now, I never thought I would be this way, but I don't think I can do the "cry it out" method. I never really thought about it before having kids, but I didn't realize how hard it would be to let your baby cry when you have the ability to respond to him immediately. We started doing research, and there is a "no cry" method where you do respond to your baby immediately. They say it will take longer for your baby to stay asleep through the night with this method, but it does work, and you don't have to feel guilty about leaving your poor little baby to cry.
Here's the other thing. Everyone is constantly asking if he is sleeping through the night yet, or eating solid foods, or formula, and when I reply, "No." to all of the above they give me a shocked face. Now when I was first asked these questions I felt the need to explain myself, and almost apologetically, but now I am confident and it just pisses me off. These are things that are not natural for my baby to do. I am doing what is right for my son, and no one has the right to make me feel like I am not. My son is happy, and healthy, and that is because I don't let him cry it out, I feed him breast milk only, and I feed him as often as he wants/needs including in the middle of the night.
My favorite is when young girls or other people who have never had children critique my parenting. Idiots. They have no idea.
Gideon's four month check up is coming up. I still haven't found him a pediatrician. Any ideas?
He's gotten better, but still HATES it. Over Labor day weekend we went to visit D's family. 6 hours in the car and I was dreading it! When we moved back the two eight hour days left Gideon with a hoarse voice for days after, so I was again prepared to experience the wailing baby. He did much better than I expected, and sometimes.... sometimes he does better when someone is in the back with him. But other times he just sits there with his eyes piercing yours and saying, "you cruel woman, why won't pick me up?"
Alright now for the controversy. We have started with the sleeping problems. OK not problems per se, and I think most of the reason I think it's a problem is because of all the well to do, older adults telling me it's a problem. Lately we have been struggling putting G down to sleep in his crib. He used to do great. He would let us put him down no problem and then sleep for hours, and only wake for feedings and go right back to sleep. But over the last few weeks he has been staying up much later (I'm talking doesn't go to sleep until 10:30), won't be put down, and won't stay asleep.
Now, I never thought I would be this way, but I don't think I can do the "cry it out" method. I never really thought about it before having kids, but I didn't realize how hard it would be to let your baby cry when you have the ability to respond to him immediately. We started doing research, and there is a "no cry" method where you do respond to your baby immediately. They say it will take longer for your baby to stay asleep through the night with this method, but it does work, and you don't have to feel guilty about leaving your poor little baby to cry.
Here's the other thing. Everyone is constantly asking if he is sleeping through the night yet, or eating solid foods, or formula, and when I reply, "No." to all of the above they give me a shocked face. Now when I was first asked these questions I felt the need to explain myself, and almost apologetically, but now I am confident and it just pisses me off. These are things that are not natural for my baby to do. I am doing what is right for my son, and no one has the right to make me feel like I am not. My son is happy, and healthy, and that is because I don't let him cry it out, I feed him breast milk only, and I feed him as often as he wants/needs including in the middle of the night.
My favorite is when young girls or other people who have never had children critique my parenting. Idiots. They have no idea.
Gideon's four month check up is coming up. I still haven't found him a pediatrician. Any ideas?
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